The ways of getting to know someone and falling in love have changed as a result of digitalization. With a bit of luck, we used to meet singles in a bar, disco or fitness center.
Today we are looking for an online dating site; intensive flirtations take place in written form. If everything goes as planned, the first date will come up at some point - with a more or less unknown person.
Sure, you've read a lot about each other, but what's the old saying? “Paper is patient!”, the same applies to digital correspondence.
10 tips for success on a blind date
Let's stick with the quotes: "If you don't dare, you won't win!". If the written relationship works in the online chat of a dating site and there is sympathy on both sides, you should not miss out on getting to know each other in person.
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To ensure that the first date doesn't turn out to be a flop, we have ten tips for you below.
Tip #1: Be yourself
It is important to present yourself as you really are. If you pretend to please, you have to expect that it will backfire. On the one hand, the date partner could become skeptical, on the other hand, he may start to like a person who doesn't really exist.
Tip #2: Choose your outfit carefully
Ideally, choose clothing that you feel comfortable in and that will also be worn at other times. For example, if you are never seen in high heels, they have no place on the first date.
Furthermore, the focus should be on the meeting point and the time of day: Of course, a fine restaurant requires a different outfit than a walk in nature.
Tip No. 3: look well-groomed
Just like with clothing, you should show that you have put some thought into the styling. The same applies here: don't exaggerate! Showering and washing your hair before the meeting should be a given.
Basically, it is advisable to appear as an approachable, natural person. Anyone who appears artificial and distant does not radiate sympathy.
Tip No. 4: Bring self-confidence
Even if you are nervous before the first meeting, you should try appear confident The other person will appreciate it if you express that you are happy with yourself. For example, submissiveness is usually poorly received and often appears unattractive.
Tip #5: Reveal some of your personality
Two people meet for the first time to get a better impression of each other. It is crucial whether it results in a platonic friendship, a relationship or a one-off sexual adventure.
Therefore, both sides should reveal something of their personality. It is the only way for the other person to judge whether and in what way you are suitable for each other.
Tip #6: Listening is important
It often happens that people give a monologue out of nervousness, especially if the other person is rather silent. The basic rule is: If you are a more talkative person, don't forget to listen to the other person.
This is the only way to have a meaningful conversation; this is the only way you can get to know each other better.
Tip #7: never mention your ex
Conversations about your ex-partner can have a negative impact on your mood. They have no place on the first date. At best, you should answer questions on this topic calmly, but without mentioning any details. Ranting tirades about your ex or stories of sadness are particularly out of place.
Tip No. 8: Add excitement to the date
Even if you can talk to the other person like an old friend, if you want to achieve more in the end, you should bring excitement. Flirt intensely with your eyes to show that your interest goes beyond friendship.
Tip #9: Don’t have too high expectations
You should leave the idea that the first date will give you the dream partner for life at home. As a rule, it only becomes clear after a longer period of time and closer proximity whether you are really a good match. Even if you emerge from the first meeting with only friendly feelings, the future can hold much more.
Tip No. 10: Best time to kiss
A kiss is not always on the agenda on a first date. This is usually preceded by long eye contact and possibly physical contact. If the date partner avoids this, the time has not (yet) come.
