What women's body language tells us

If you want to know what's going on with a woman at the moment, you should definitely pay close attention to her body language , facial expressions and gestures . There you will find numerous signals and clues that will tell you whether she is interested or not.

Admittedly, men, just like women, flirt with their whole bodies. However, the female gender uses gestures more frequently and more diversely than their male counterparts. Their facial expressions also often provide more clues.

If you don't want to attempt to flirt and make contact with the fairer sex blindly, then a few basic knowledge of women's body language will help enormously.

You can even go so far as to say that the ability to correctly interpret body language should be part of every single person's basic toolkit. Especially when dating for the first time or at the beginning of a phase of getting to know each other, it is important not to act like an ax in the woods, but rather to respond skillfully to their non-verbal signals.

We cannot not communicate, as the saying goes. An immense advantage that comes from the correct interpretation of small gestures, changes in facial expressions, posture and so-called transitional actions is to find out the true thoughts.

While it is easy for us humans to disguise our real thoughts and reactions in words - written or spoken - this is no longer so easy with non-verbal communication. This usually takes place unconsciously.

So if we ever suspect that a woman isn't telling us the truth or might be hiding something, then we may be able to unmask her through the unconscious signals from her body or face .

How to interpret body language correctly – basics

Correctly interpreting body language is not simply a matter of paying attention to specific, telltale gestures or movements. Every person is different and so you can't treat everyone with the same brush.

In order to read women and their behavior, it is more important to pay attention to changes in their movements.
So it's about what reactions we trigger in a woman. To do this, a so-called “baseline” must first be determined. How does the woman typically behave? Are there any differences in her behavior when she's talking to you compared to when she's talking to other people?

Only after you get to know a woman's usual movement and behavior patterns can you draw certain conclusions based on changes in them.

An example: You went on an online date for the first time and had a cozy dinner in a fancy restaurant. Then you decide to go for a walk for another hour. The woman repeatedly seeks physical contact and touches her arm or shoulder.

Now you could conclude that the woman is clearly interested in you and would therefore be an easy catch.

But that could be a fallacy. Maybe she's just a person who has an easy time dealing with physical closeness and is generally quick to seek physical contact. Then it doesn't necessarily have to mean anything.

What is more important is whether she seeks more intensive contact with you than with other people. Does she touch you more often or perhaps in more intimate places (e.g. chest or stomach)? These could actually be indications of a genuine interest in you.

Signs of discomfort

If you don't know each other that well, it's easy to say or do something that might offend the other person. That's not great, but it can definitely happen and doesn't necessarily have to be a knockout criterion.

What is important in such a situation is that we recognize such a moment. Women usually react quite clearly when they feel uncomfortable by suddenly more or less freezing or “freezing” in their movements.

If you observe such a reaction, then the woman is most likely feeling uncomfortable, afraid, or insecure.

In such moments you should put the brakes on your flirting maneuvers. Think about what could have led to this reaction and better take a step back. Give the woman the space to relax again. And humor is also a good way to make her feel good again.

Positive signs of interest

Now that we know how to deal with mistakes skillfully, let's turn to the positive signals. The more of these you observe in a woman, the more confident you can be that there is genuine and genuine interest.

Is the woman's body openly facing you? Does she lean slightly toward you? Do you smile often? Does she maintain eye contact? Does she have a relaxed and relaxed posture?

Is she playing casually with her feet under the table? Does she keep grabbing her hair? These are all positive reactions to your presence and you can be reassured that you are on the right track.

However, keep in mind what I mentioned in the first section about body language basics. Not every single one of these signs indicates genuine interest. It all depends on how these signals deviate from their typical baseline.

The more such positive reactions you observe from a woman, the more confident you can be about her interest in general.

In addition to the physical signals, a woman's facial expressions, facial expressions and eyes also reveal a lot. The following video clearly shows the important information we should pay attention to when flirting:

A guide article from Singlebörse-Check.de on the topic of “Body language when flirting” goes into detail about what the skin, mouth and eyes tell us if we just pay attention to them.

Once you realize how much information the lovely feminine provides us with when we get to know each other, then flirting becomes much more relaxed and successful.

In this sense, a short guide to this is almost a kind of required reading for every single person out there who wants to flirt. This saves you one or two unnecessary rejections, you develop a deeper understanding of the opposite sex and you can skilfully avoid the numerous faux pas.

But the guide article also has a lot of useful information and tips to offer women. For example, the positive flirting signals in men are examined in more detail and support for interpretation is provided.

Barriers

If you are on the right track with your date and respond appropriately to your counterpart's signals, then you will quickly notice that barriers disappear all by themselves.

By barriers I figuratively mean those behavioral patterns that consciously or subconsciously aim to build or maintain a distance between two people.

If a woman feels comfortable with you, she will automatically allow the distance between them to decrease. So barriers are broken down. This can happen with a simple opening of previously folded arms.

Or she moves a little closer to you, reacts more positively and affectionately to approaches and touches, etc.

In contrast, women are also quick to put up barriers if they feel uncomfortable for any reason. You can also notice this if the woman holds something protectively in front of her chest or places an object between herself and you, such as a cell phone, book, bag or a drink. A posture facing away from you can also create such a barrier.

Watch out for such signs and adapt your behavior accordingly. Once you have decoded these signals and recognized them with great certainty, you can control your behavior accordingly to turn the chances of success very much in your favor.

Microexpressions

Finally, I would like to talk about the so-called microexpressions – or micromimics . These are fleeting facial expressions that only last a few fractions of a second and can only be actively perceived with practice.

They are typically described as expressing the seven universal emotions of disgust, anger, fear, sadness, joy, surprise and contempt.

This approach goes back to the two American psychologists Paul Ekman and Wallace Friesen. They view muscles as a kind of interface between the inner experience of humans and their signals to the environment and, based on this, have documented their findings in a facial action coding system .

Zeit Online has dedicated itself to these findings together with psychology professor Jörg Merten - with some surprising results.

Body language coaches in particular have recognized the potential behind these fleeting facial movements and specifically train their participants to use them when flirting.

The effectiveness of correctly interpreting these expressions relies on the fact that they are an extremely accurate indicator of a woman's current emotional state. Of course they also occur in men.

Once you are trained to recognize the true emotional reactions of the other person, then you can often steer the course of a conversation quite well and influence it positively.

For example, if you notice that a certain topic of conversation causes discomfort, reluctance or anger in the other person, you can quickly change the subject.

As you can see, the field of nonverbal communication is a broad one. The great thing about it is that you can reap numerous benefits from it and thus have a large share of the success of a flirt in your own hands. Just try it next time.