BDSM – The slightly different world of eroticism

Are you sexually open and keen to experiment or do you want to explore new paths in your relationship to bring the tingling and excitement back into your love life? Both are certainly very understandable scenarios that you may have already experienced yourself.

In this context, have you ever secretly thought about the idea of ​​dominance and submission during sex play ? You may have already stumbled across the novel “Fifty Shades of Grey” or are even feverishly following the novel’s path to our cinemas.

Even if you have had little contact with the topics of BDSM and sadomasochism , it is unlikely that you have never heard this book title before. 10 million Germans have read the book. 100 million women worldwide have read the sexually charged love fairy tale. 450,000 cinema tickets were pre-ordered (worldwide: 3 million).

Story? A virgin student (21) meets a sadomasochistic billionaire (27). It will be the most beautiful, most painful love of her life. The cinema release in Germany is this Wednesday, February 12, 2015.

What exactly is BDSM anyway?

The term BDSM is an acronym that stands for Bondage Dominance Sadism M asochism thus summarizes several sexual preferences.

This collective name for a group of related sexual practices is also known as sadomachosism (SM) .

The English term for this popular fetish stands for three main areas:

Restraints (bondage) and discipline

The English term bondage describes practices of binding (the partner is tied up) or other types of restricting freedom of movement. Studies show that around 50% of men and many women find bondage games erotic.

Dominance and submission (submission)

This type of BDSM is about one partner subordinating themselves to the other for a certain period of time. The submissive partner submits and obeys his top (within the agreed limits). This unequal power relationship is consciously accepted and striven for.

sadism and masochism

This sub-area of ​​BDSM involves practices whose purpose is to inflict or intentionally suffer pain. These practices include, but are not limited to, wax play, pinching, pinching, tickling, hitting with the hand or various instruments.

BDSM offers various options within which you can find your preferences. Sadomasochistic actions are about erotic power games and not just about pain. These games are characterized by a clear distribution of roles. A BDSM game usually takes place between an active (top or dom) and a passive (bottom or sub) part.

Important information about BDSM

• There is no coercion in BDSM.
• BDSM is an expression of your sexual preferences.
• The games always take place within the framework of joint agreements.
• This consent is referred to as “SSC” – safe, common sense, consensual
• “save word” is always agreed upon so that the BDSM game
  can be canceled

BDSM toys – the versatile world of punishment and education

If you want to explore the practices of BDSM, you should also get to know the common sex toys and punishment instruments.

These are mainly canes, whips and riding crops . They are easy to use and serve their purpose in many role-playing games.

Discuss your preferences with your partner when choosing a BDSM sex toy. For example, in the Peitschenbär BDSM shop a large selection of items for different and alternative eroticism and sexuality. These will inspire your imagination and bring even more fun for two.

The SM market is geared towards both genders. Men and women can use sex toys made especially for them.

Form your own opinion about BDSM

Unfortunately, when it comes to a sexual alternative to “normal sex”, one often encounters prejudices in our society. To outsiders, a deep emotional bond between BDSM partners seems inconceivable. In their eyes they only see the exercise of physical and mental violence.

But every adult can organize their life and especially their sex life the way they want. BDSM is about erotic power games that many of us often only live out in our heads. In long-term relationships, BDSM often offers the opportunity to bring new momentum into the relationship and thus prevent cheating.

Curious?

Have you become curious about BDSM after reading this article?
Then it is important that trust and affection are the top priority in your relationship. Actively work on it and maintain this relationship regularly. Using different sex toys, these practices will allow you to share an unusual experience with each other.

For many BDSM practitioners, the experience of pain of pleasure is an important motivation. The endorphins released through targeted infliction of physical pain and other intense sensations are often compared by BDSM practitioners to the aftereffects of an orgasm .

Many couples who use BDSM practices have a completely equal relationship. They can also take advantage of the power imbalance in order to gain more self-confidence in everyday life.

These diverse sexual behaviors have a strong attraction for many people.

Playful punishment, dominance and submission, bondage - who hasn't indulged in this fantasy or dreamed of it?

In any case, the sales figures for “Fifty Shades of Grey” speak for themselves very clearly.